Love on the internet

So I grew up in an age where the internet really started to boom.

As long as I’ve been dating, there have been dating sites, dating apps, and social networks.

They’re all dating pools. That we’ve probably taken a dip in from time to time. It’s where I learned to swim.

I am grateful for the internet, because I found love on the internet more than once in my life.

Which is unbelievable, because I was one of those people that always said, I wouldn’t meet the love of my life on the internet, but there I went on loving women I met from the internet.

So my perspective has changed over time.

I wonder how different my love life would have been without it, probably nonexistent, as an introvert, the internet put me in contact with women I would’ve never known otherwise.

There’s a phenomena we see in radio music.

People begin to like, what they are exposed to a lot.
The more you are exposed to a song on the radio, that you don’t like, the more you’ll start to like it; down the road, because of the sheer fact you keep hearing it.

The human mind is fickle like that.

I think that’s the effect social media can have on people’s perceived level of attraction, and the way people interact.

First of all, we are accessible on the internet, we are accessible on social media and accessible on dating apps in ways we wouldn’t be otherwise.

So if someone continues to message you, and show interest in you.

It will affect your perception of them.

One of the key ingredients to being interested in someone, is their interest in you, people look for reciprocity in their feelings, and emotions, because they aim to be loved and understood.

At the beginning of every relationship is attraction, whether it’s physical, mental, or emotional, there is a form of attraction that forms the foundation of the relationship.

I use the word relationship loosely here, because it defines any hookup, situationship, friends with benefits, entanglement, relationship, committed relationship, and loving committed relationship.

The internet is a strange place…. think about it, did I love those women before I met them, or did I date them, because I knew there was a propensity for love, or did I just date them and happen to fall in love. I didn’t love every woman I dated, so that says something as well, nor did they all love me.

we don’t just fall in love, we choose to live in love.

Love develops and grows from the choices we make, and the way we treat one another.

For me, love has developed in the relationships, where I wanted to love those women.

I didn’t date them with the intention of being in love, but I found love in those relationships, because we were both open to it.

Love exists on the internet, and off the internet. I’ve experienced love from in person connections, and from the world wide web.

Love is such loaded word, because its meaning is different for everyone.

Getting back to “love” on the internet

I wonder if the inferred Identities we create based off peoples dating profiles or social media profiles, have any real merit, how accurate could we judge a person based off their various identities on the internet.

This is how I imagine it is for people

*looking at a crush on the internet

Here I am thinking of you.

Yet I do not know you.

I’ve imagined who you are, so I feel as though I already know you.

I have a preconceived notion of who you are, based on the photos and videos I’ve seen of you on the internet.

Is that who you are?

Or am I falling in love with the idea of you.

Can we fall in love through a photo?

Can we fall in love through a video?

Can we fall in love without ever physically touching?

Can we fall in love with the idea of another person?

Are people the same in person as they are on the internet ? I know I’m not.

People can have an initial attraction so intense, that they become delusional in their own mind.

I’m attracted to physically beautiful women, but I don’t have the ability to discern if she’s truly beautiful inside.

Do my eyes deceive me?

When the package is nice, it’s easy to overlook what’s inside

It’s easy to overlook potentially negative qualities.

*Sweet thing by rufus featuring Chaka Khan playing

Dear wifey.

I’m continuously growing as a man, and a human being.

Preparing myself for your divine feminine energy.

Becoming the man you intended me to be.

The one you envisioned in your life with, just as I imagined you in mine.

A loving relationship, where you can relax, and be at ease, because I got you,

and you know you’re taken care of.

Laughter so deep our stomachs hurt

Smile so much our faces get sore

As long as you’re a part of my life, I’m going to show you my love is pure

I act from a source of love, with good intentions, to strengthen us as individuals and as a couple.